Get Back at your Enemies: Living Well is the Best Revenge

"You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life"

-Winston Churchill

We've all been wronged at one time or another in our lives. Some of us have been wronged more than we'd like to admit. Many of us walk around feeling broken. We've been betrayed, bullied by schoolmates or co-workers. Perhaps unjustly fired from a job we loved. We wonder why people do bad things to us and we carry around that pain. We become depressed. We may feel worthless. We become angry. We may even dream of revenge.

You may feel better temporarily by getting back at someone but causing more pain isn't a productive or healthy way to deal with anything. Besides, most people who do bad things are miserable themselves. Truly happy, well adjusted people don't go around making problems for others. Do you really want to stoop to their level?

Heal yourself by saying positive affirmations and focusing on those who make you happy. Thoughts are real things and thoughts are what create your future. Don't dwell on the wrongs that have been inflicted on you. It will only turn you into a bitter and miserable person. You want to make your enemies crazy? Forgive them. Live a good life. You don't have to be a millionaire or a movie star to live a good life. You just have to be happy.

Who are we really hurting when we carry around our pain? Certainly not the ones who have acted cruelly towards us. Holding onto anger, grudges and pain not only hurts us emotionally but years of repressed anger has been proven to cause serious illnesses. We only continue hurting ourselves, which is why we must learn to let go and forgive. Forgiving does not mean letting toxic, abusive or dangerous people back into your life. Forgiveness is not really about the people who hurt us. It's about healing ourselves and letting go of anger. It's about taking our power back.

You don't have to confront the person who hurt you, especially if that person is a threat to you or your family. There are some wonderful techniques to help you learn to forgive and move on.

Write a letter to the person but don't mail it. In the letter, explain how the person hurt you, how it affected you and how you will no longer let that person affect you. Once you are done writing the letter, tear it up or burn it.

Journaling. Put it all on paper but instead of venting, focus on the positive things that have happened or the positive things that can come out of the betrayal.

Put yourself in the other person's shoes. It's not easy for some people, but trying to understand another person's motives may help you to move on.

Once you've learned to forgive and move on, you will feel like a weight has been lifted off of you. It's liberating to be free of all the negativity that has been weighing you down. You will no longer feel the need to seek revenge. Forgiveness renews your spirit and it is one of the greatest secrets to happiness.